A child’s eating habits can be a concern for parents from infancy through teenagers and even adulthood. From the picky toddler who only will eat a specific food for days on end, to the teenager whose diet seems to consist solely of fast food and soda, getting your child to eat a well-balanced and nutritious meal can be frustrating.
Additionally, understanding proper eating habits and nutrition can be confusing and overwhelming, particularly to children and teens. With nearly one in five school-age children considered obese, health experts have been pushing for more nutrition education in schools and less fat and sugar in kids’ diets.
According to psychotherapist Abigail Natenshon, author of “When Your Child Has an Eating Disorder,” some kids are interpreting the message as “food is fattening” or “food is the enemy.” She describes an 11-year-old patient whose friends eat a smaller lunch on days when they don’t have soccer practice.
“These children are mimicking what they’re seeing adults do,” Natenshon said. “But kids’ nutritional needs are different from those of adults. They need enough calories and fats to fuel their body, grow their bones, enter puberty, and create neuronal pathways in their developing brain.”
At what point does concern for healthy eating habits turn into an eating disorder?
Eating disorders are serious, but treatable, mental illnesses that can affect people of every age, gender, race, ethnicity and socioeconomic group. National surveys estimate that 20 million women and 10 million men in America will have an eating disorder at some point in their lives.
The National Eating Disorders Association identifies four types of eating disorders:
Anorexia nervosa: Characterized by weight loss (or lack of appropriate weight gain in growing children); difficulty maintaining an appropriate body weight for height, age and stature; and, in many individuals, distorted body image. Sadly, there has been a rise in cases of anorexia in young women ages 15 to 19 in each decade since 1930.
Avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID): Once known as “selective eating disorder,” ARFID is similar to anorexia in that both disorders involve limitations in the amount and/or types of food consumed, but unlike anorexia, ARFID does not involve any distress about body shape or size, or fears of fatness.
Bulimia nervosa: Bulimia nervosa is a serious, potentially life-threatening eating disorder characterized by a cycle of binging and then compensatory behaviors, such as self-induced vomiting in an effort to undo or make up for the effects of binge eating.
Binge eating disorder: This is a serious, life-threatening but treatable eating disorder characterized by recurrent episodes of eating large quantities of food (often very quickly and to the point of discomfort); a feeling of a loss of control during the binge; experiencing shame, distress or guilt afterward; and not regularly using unhealthy compensatory measures (e.g., vomiting/purging) to counter the binge eating. It is the most common eating disorder in the United States.
When should you seek help?
Signs of eating disorders are not always obvious. Parents should look for any signs of sudden weight loss or gain in teens or failure to reach height and weight milestones in younger children. Warning signs may include:
- Perfectionism (striving for perfect standards or unattainably high goals)
- Difficulty regulating emotions
- Obsessive-compulsive behaviors
- Rigid thinking style (e.g., there is only one right way to do things)
- Size and weight prejudice
- Emphasis on dieting
- Thinking an “ideal” body includes only a narrow range of shapes and sizes
- Having a close family member with an eating disorder
- Family history of depression, anxiety and/or addiction
- Personal history of depression, anxiety and/or addiction
- Food allergies that contribute to picky or restrictive eating (e.g., gluten sensitivity)
- Type 1 diabetes
Ultimately, trust your instinct. Talk to your child’s doctor about any concerns with eating habits, weight or behavior. Early recognition is important for successful treatment of eating disorders.