Former Norton Children’s Hospital NICU nurse and patient’s family share 30-year friendship
Their deep connection began following the death of a child
I’ve been proud to call Norton Healthcare my employer for 36 years. While I work in human resources now, I got my start as a staff nurse at Norton Children’s Hospital. I met so many special kids and families as a nurse. There are too many to count, but there is one I still think of daily.
A newborn named Carly came to Norton Children’s Hospital from South Carolina for a heart transplant in 1988. I was working in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) when Carly was admitted.
Carly’s condition became grave and it became apparent that she was not going to survive. I was able to be with her and her family when she passed away. This sweet little infant never even reached 1 month old.
After Carly’s death, I stayed in contact with Carly’s mom, Lisa, and dad, Jimmy, a sweet couple who really loved Carly. Since Carly was so far away from the rest of her family after her birth, I knew that my knowing her was a source of comfort for the parents. I knew what she had gone through and, after Carly’s death, felt I could help them by staying in touch and talking about Carly to keep her memory alive.
I visited the family in South Carolina and met so many people who loved her. They received me with open arms and we had a wonderful visit.
Lisa and I kept in touch through the years. We visited each other a time or two, and she and her husband came to my wedding with their new 1-month-old daughter in tow. When Lisa told me she was having a baby girl, she asked if she could name her Jacinta, after me! I was so honored and hoped I could live up to being her Aunt Cinta.
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The years went by and we continued to stay in touch. Jacinta would send me pictures she made for me, and Lisa would send photos. Jacinta grew into a wonderful young woman and got married in 2012. My son and I went to South Carolina to share in the celebration.
All these years later, Jacinta still treats me like a family member. And now I am a great aunt. Jacinta had a son, Hunter, in 2016, whom my daughter and I visited during a spring break trip.
Ours has not been the typical patient/caregiver relationship, but it certainly has been a wonderful friendship that grew from a very sad life event. I am honored to know them and have a deep connection and love for this special family.