If a bully picks on me, should I fight back? – Cole* Standing up to bullies doesn't mean you have to have a physical fight with them. Most of the time, you don't have to fight. There are almost always more effective ways to deal with bullies — ways that are better for you. Sometimes, though, people feel they need to (or want to) fight a bully. They may feel that they're being physically threatened right at that moment and need to protect themselves. They may think fighting back will teach the bully a lesson or be the best way to escape. Some people may feel pressured by others to fight back even when they don't really want to. Feeling pressured by other people is not a good reason to fight. There's no easy answer to the question about when someone should fight back physically. Some bullies don't actually want to fight. They just like to intimidate others or show off in front of their friends. Other bullies back down without a fight if the person they're targeting stands up to them. Some bullies like to get into a fight. They might like to cause pain to others — or feel pain themselves. Fighting can get dangerous. A fight sometimes leads to serious injuries. The bully might have a weapon. Fighting may make the bully feel he or she has to come back later with a weapon or friends to help — and the whole thing can get out of control. So, what can people who are being bullied do to feel more in control and able to defend themselves? If you're being bullied, talk with a trusted adult, such as a parent, teacher, counselor, or coach. They can get involved to help. Most schools do not tolerate bullies and have strict anti-bullying rules. In some cases, it also might be necessary to get help from the police. After all, if a bully physically attacks someone, it's assault — and that's a crime. If a bully uses a weapon or threatens to use one, it can result in severe penalties for the bully, including expulsion from school, arrest, and even prison. For people who want to build skills and improve confidence, taking self-defense classes can help. Even for people who never need to use self-defense skills, just learning them can be very helpful. In a few rare situations, fighting back may be the only way out at that moment. Fighting back physically is only a good idea when there is no other choice to avoid injury. But in almost all other cases, there are better, more effective, and safer choices. *Names have been changed to protect user privacy. Back to Articles Related Articles I Bullied Someone. How Can I Apologize? Find out what the experts have to say. Read More Cyberbullying Using technology to bully is a problem that's on the rise. The good news is awareness of how to prevent cyberbullying is growing even faster. See our tips on what to do. Read More Sexual Harassment and Sexual Bullying Just like other kinds of bullying, sexual bullying is intended to hurt, offend, or intimidate another person. Find out how to recognize sexual bullying and harassment and what to do. Read More Dealing With Bullying Bullying has everyone worried, not just the people on its receiving end. Learn about dealing with bullies, including tips on how to stand up for yourself or a friend. Read More How Can I Help Someone Who's Being Bullied? Find out what the experts have to say. Read More School Counselors School counselors can give you all sorts of tips and support on solving problems and making good decisions. But how do you meet with a counselor and what is it like? Find out here. Read More Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor. © 1995-2021 KidsHealth®. All rights reserved. Images provided by The Nemours Foundation, iStock, Getty Images, Veer, Shutterstock, and Clipart.com.