Talking About Your Feelings How many feelings can you name? Happy, sad, scared? That's a good start. Can you name some more? How about playful, joyful, calm? Mad, upset, worried. Confused, lonely, nervous. Grateful, glad, cozy. Loved, friendly, peaceful. There are so many feelings to name. Try coming up with some of your own. No matter how you feel — good or bad — it's healthy to put your feelings into words. Talking about feelings helps us feel close to people who care. It helps us feel better when we're sad or scared. Putting feelings into words helps us use self-control when we feel mad or upset. If your little brother took something of yours, you can say, "Hey, I'm annoyed that you took that without asking me. Next time, please ask." No need to get in a big fight over it. Just say how you feel and why, without yelling. Know Your Feelings It's easier to talk about your feelings if you know how you feel and why. Try these easy steps: Think of the name for how you feel. (Let's say you feel nervous.) Think of why you feel that way. (Let's say you are nervous because you have a spelling test tomorrow.) Put them together into words. (Say to yourself, "I feel nervous about my spelling test tomorrow.") If you don't know why you feel a certain way, you can still talk about it. You can say, "I feel upset, but I don't know why." Pick Someone to Talk to A parent, grandparent, or a friend can be a good person to talk to. It's easier than you think. You can start by going to the person and saying, "Can we talk for a minute?" Then say how you feel and why. Let the other person listen. Maybe they will give you advice. Or say something kind. Maybe they will help you laugh, or give you a hug. Or say, "Don't worry, I'll help you study your spelling words." Just saying how you feel and why helps you start to feel better. It helps to know you are not alone with a problem or worry. Talk About Feelings Any Time You don't have to wait for a big problem to talk about your feelings. You can say how you feel any time. It's a good thing to practice. Talking about feelings doesn't have to be a big talk. You can make a short and simple comment. Like this: "Dad, I'm really glad we're having pizza tonight! Thanks!" "I'm excited about the game tonight. I think the coach will let me start." "I'm so relieved because I did really well on my math test!" "I felt so awkward when I asked Kyle to the dance, and I was so happy when he said yes!" You don't have to talk about every feeling you have. But noticing your feelings and saying how you feel and why is good practice. The more you do it, the easier it gets. Talking about your feelings is a healthy way to express them. And when you have difficult feelings you need to talk over, you'll be ready. Back to Articles Related Articles Why Am I So Sad? Feeling down? Got the blues? Everyone feels sad sometimes. Find out more in this article for kids. Read More Being Afraid Have you ever been afraid? Everyone gets scared sometimes. Find out more about fear in this article for kids. Read More Taking Charge of Anger Did you know that anger isn't all bad? Find out more in this article for kids. Read More Five Steps for Fighting Stress Everybody gets stressed from time to time. This article for kids has some tips for you to try the next time you're stressed. Read More Train Your Temper Everyone gets angry sometimes. Does your temper ever get out of control? Find out how to put a leash on it. Read More Saying You're Sorry Let's face it - it's not always easy to get along with sisters, brothers, parents, and friends. Kids aren't perfect, and they sometimes do things that get them into trouble. Saying "I'm sorry" can help. Read More Stress Stress happens when you are worried or uncomfortable about something. You may feel angry, frustrated, scared, or afraid. Our article for kids will help you manage stress. Read More Shyness Lots of people are shy. Are you? Find out about shyness in this article for kids. Read More Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor. © 1995-2021 KidsHealth®. All rights reserved. Images provided by The Nemours Foundation, iStock, Getty Images, Veer, Shutterstock, and Clipart.com.